Exactly 3 years ago this week, I made the single most difficult yet best decision of my life: to end my marriage of almost 16 years. In the decade-plus that... Continue Reading

Someone once told me that I wasn’t really dealing with an alcoholic, because I wasn’t beaten and didn’t have horrible stories of abuse. (Interestingly, this is the same kind of... Continue Reading

I’m not sure what this song is actually supposed to be about (obviously a break up), but it hit me somewhere deep with overwhelming emotion the first time I heard... Continue Reading

If you’re feeling isolated in your current situation, I can empathize. Even now, while getting my story out and hopefully helping others, I feel the isolation of hiding addiction for... Continue Reading

The Good Outweighs the Bad (Or So It Seems) One of the reasons many people stay in a relationship stricken with addiction (in addition to our desire to protect them)... Continue Reading

It’s a funny thing being married to an alcoholic, and the instant need to protect an alcoholic and fix them. Some professionals blame it on codependency, and that often fits….but... Continue Reading

I remember the screaming and yelling. And fear. This was the first night I recall feeling really, really scared. There were other times I felt threatened, scared of fighting, scared... Continue Reading

Marrying an Alcoholic When I was 22, I never thought marrying an alcoholic would literally change the trajectory of my entire life. “What would you do if I ever started... Continue Reading

So, you’re a mom, and your kids are your entire world, and you like it that way! You love them as much as I love mine, and would probably cut... Continue Reading

What was it that made me stick out my marriage so long? It wasn’t what we tend to think about, like obligation or vows…it was fear. Fear of the unknown,... Continue Reading